Saturday, October 26, 2013

What it means to go to a women's college

I didn’t want to go to a women’s college.  As I applied for schools and received my acceptance letters I was stuck deciding between two equally great schools, neither of which appealed to me. In my mind I was screwed and convinced myself to choose one and transfer after a year or a semester.  I chose Bryn Mawr College because of the two final options it was closer and freaked me out slightly less than the other option. I spent part of my summer anxiously waiting what I had determined would be an okay experience and I didn’t have high expectations of the experience of college much less that of a women’s college. 

It happened sometime in February my first year at Bryn Mawr. When I fell in love. I fell in love with the people.  I fell in love with the traditions.  And most importantly I fell in love with a community that I fit into and became a part of wholeheartedly.  While I have never considered myself a person of faith or destiny, I am beginning to believe that everything happens for a reason, and that Bryn Mawr ‘happened’ for me. 

Going to a women’s college means different things for everyone. For some it means posting on the women’s college problems tumblr.  For others it means experimenting with sexuality, breaking the bonds of our world that is undeniably heteronormative.  It means repeatedly saying, “it’s not a girl’s school, it’s a women’s college” to your friends back home.  For me, it has meant those things to a certain extent, but more importantly it has transformed me into a different person.  I have spent three years at the institution and I have become a more thoughtful, more articulate, more confident, and more confused individual than I have ever been before and it has been a wonderful experience.  I would never trade my hours at Bryn Mawr for any hour at a coed institution.  While I love Bryn Mawr for all the glories that I enjoy I don’t consider myself a typical Bryn Mawr student, passionate about all the traditions, eagerly chasing the norms down so that I can break them, and attempting to be as out of the box as possible.  Frankly I spend the majority of my time either at the library, at the gym or talking with my friends.  All perfectly acceptable things to do, but then, you might ask why do I love Bryn Mawr so much?  Why do I, the girl from rural Vermont, raised by two very progressive intellectuals, then feel such a strong love and admiration for the Mawr?    


I love Bryn Mawr because of all the women.  I love the environment both academically and socially that not only supports us and pushes us to be the best we can be, but also encourages us to be and to find who we are meant to be.  Isn’t that what college (any college) is about?  Finding yourself and finding who you are “supposed to be” is supposed to happen in your twenties I guess. I thought it happened when I was sixteen.  That would have been early bloomer to the extreme.  And I’m glad that I’m not the person I was when I was sixteen.  Bryn Mawr has made me a woman with self-respect for my person and the work that I do.  I have become a more considerate person and I really good listener.  I have also become a better talker, but that will hopefully continue to improve with time.  I have learned to understand the importance of community.  The Bryn Mawr community is one of the most invaluable characteristics of my experience.  It isn’t just about my friends that I’ve made here, but the understanding that everyone who walks the hallways of Thomas Great Hall or the cherry blossomed path has been through similar experiences that I have and understands parts of me because we share something that has become a part of us. 

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